Code of Conduct
A safe space is primarily defined as:
“A place where anyone can relax and be fully self-expressed, without fear of being made to feel uncomfortable, unwelcome, or unsafe on account of biological sex, race/ethnicity, sexual orientation, gender identity or expression, cultural background, age, or physical or mental ability; a place where the rules guard each person’s self-respect and dignity and strongly encourage everyone to respect others.” (Source: Advocates for Youth)
At PNWF, we will always try to create and maintain “safer spaces” within our community.
While we recognize that because of intersecting identities and individual experiences, it is impossible to have a truly safe space, we hope that by providing a Code of Conduct for the community and working hard to hold ourselves to the highest standard possible, we can help foster a safer space and culture of accountability where fat people can come together and speak freely about our fat experience without judgment or harm.
It is also important to note that a safe space doesn’t guarantee anyone freedom from criticism of problematic behavior. PNWF acknowledges that we are all in a process of learning and growing - but we must hold each other accountable for our actions (or inaction).
This code of conduct applies to all PNWF spaces, both online and off. Anyone who violates this Code of Conduct may be sanctioned or expelled from these spaces at the discretion of the PNWF organizers.
Some PNWF spaces may have additional rules in place, which will be made available to participants. Participants are responsible for knowing and abiding by these rules.
PNWF is dedicated to providing a harassment-free experience for everyone, regardless of gender, gender identity and expression, sexual orientation, disability, physical appearance, age, body size, race, or religion. We do not tolerate harassment of participants in any form.
- Offensive comments related to gender, gender identity and expression, sexual orientation, disability, mental illness, neuro(a)typicality, physical appearance, body size, race, or religion
- Unwelcome comments regarding a person’s lifestyle choices and practices, including those related to food, health, parenting, drugs, and employment.
- Deliberate misgendering or use of ‘dead’ or rejected names
- Gratuitous or off-topic sexual images or behavior in spaces where they’re not appropriate
- Physical contact and simulated physical contact (eg, textual descriptions like “*hug*” or “*back rub*”) without consent or after a request to stop.
- Threats of violence
- Incitement of violence towards any individual, including encouraging a person to commit suicide or to engage in self-harm
- Deliberate intimidation
- Stalking or following
- Harassing photography or recording, including logging online activity for harassment purposes
- Sustained disruption of discussion
- Unwelcome sexual attention
- Pattern of inappropriate social contact, such as requesting/assuming inappropriate levels of intimacy with others
- Continued one-on-one communication after requests to cease
- Deliberate “outing” of any aspect of a person’s identity without their consent except as necessary to protect other community members or other vulnerable people from intentional abuse
- Publication of non-harassing private communication
PNWF prioritizes marginalized people’s safety over privileged people’s comfort. We will not act on complaints regarding
- ‘Reverse’ -isms, including ‘reverse racism,’ ‘reverse sexism,’ and ‘cisphobia’ (because these things don’t exist)
- Reasonable communication of boundaries, such as “leave me alone,” “go away,” or “I’m not discussing this with you.”
- Refusal to explain or debate social justice concepts
- Communicating in a ‘tone’ you don’t find congenial
- Criticizing racist, sexist, cissexist, or otherwise oppressive behavior or assumptions
Please note: PNWF is a non-violent group and we do not condone illegal or violent actions. We reserve the right to ban offending persons from attending future events. If an individual is found in violation of the Code of Conduct during an event and a resolution cannot be arrived at, or their behavior jeopardizes the safety of event attendees, the offending person(s) will be removed from the venue immediately.
If you are being harassed by a member of the PNWF community, notice that someone else is being harassed, or have any other concerns, please contact us immediately via email at firstname.lastname@example.org or let one of the event organizers or online admins/moderators know so they may step in.
This code of conduct applies to PNWF spaces, but if you are being harassed by a member of PNWF outside our spaces, we still want to know about it. We will take all good-faith reports of harassment by PNWF members seriously. This includes harassment outside our spaces and harassment that took place at any point in time. We reserve the right to exclude people from PNWF based on their past behavior, including behavior outside PNWF spaces and behavior towards people who are not in PNWF.
We will respect confidentiality requests for the purpose of protecting victims of abuse. At our discretion, we may publicly name a person about whom we’ve received harassment complaints, or privately warn third parties about them, if we believe that doing so will increase the safety of PNWF members or the general public. We will not name harassment victims without their affirmative consent.
Participants asked to stop any harassing behavior are expected to comply immediately.
If a participant engages in harassing behavior, PNWF may take any action we deem appropriate, up to and including expulsion from all PNWF spaces and identification of the participant as a harasser to other PNWF community members or the general public.
- On Safe Spaces and High-Hoping Fools
- How to Call Someone Out
- The 4 A’s of Accountability
- How To Deal With Being Called Out
- The ethics of admitting you messed up
- (video) Getting Called Out: How to Apologize
- (video) How To Tell People They Sound Racist
- Colorblind Ideology is a Form of Racism
- Why there’s no such thing as “Reverse Racism”
- “Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack” by Peggy McIntosh
- (tw: ableist slurs) Derailing for Dummies
- Words That are Transphobic and Why
- Transwhat? Allyship: first steps
- On being an ally and being called out on your privilege
- So You Call Yourself an Ally: 10 Things All ‘Allies’ Need to Know
- Feminism 101
- A Response to Fat White Activism From People of Color in the Fat Justice Movement
This document is a work in a progress and will likely remain so. If you’d like to recommend resources to add to this page, email email@example.com. Last updated 7/30/18.